It’s that time of year again where we all psychologically start at square one again. Quite honestly new years is just another day. Yes, we celebrate going into a New Year, but honestly the next day is a Wednesday.. and who ever gave Wednesday’s any good credit?
I too was once like you, making funny New Year’s resolutions that I thought I was going to obtain. Here’s the post I wrote last year. While I was able to attain some of those goals, a majority of them were not even close to being reached.
Here’s Why I Didn’t Reach My 2013 New Year’s Resolutions
It could be a combination of a lot of things, but here are the primary factors for why I didn’t obtain my 2013 New Year’s Resolution.
- I Didn’t Have A ‘Why.’ If you’re into awesome personal development speakers like Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Zig Ziglar and Eric Thomas; you may have heard all of them say something along the lines of starting with your WHY? Not having a why left me without a road map to meet my goals.
- Priorities Changed. One minute wanted to reach my New Year’s resolution, the next minute I wanted to be a philanthropist and help millions of people around the world. My priorities periodically changed and I felt like I couldn’t balance them all at once. Eventually I lost sight of why I really wanted and it was never to be found again. Maybe you’ve felt this way before about some goal you’ve wanted to attain.
- No Vision Board. There’s a quaint little vision board in my mind however, there’s no vision board that I look at and see on a daily basis. This would have been a key factor in helping me stay focused on what my initial goals were.
- I Got Romantic. In 2013, Gary Vaynerchuck said something that has stuck with me till this day: “you can’t get romantic with how you make your money.” Unfortunately, that’s exactly what I was doing. Instead of going after my goals, I got too “romantic” and involved my emotion in conducting business. It wasn’t until I stopped doing this that I’ve actually started to make money and help more people in the process.
- Personal Life. When trying to build a life you’re proud of, it’s almost a default that your personal life is going to make an impact on your decisions. This is something we can try to balance but ultimately, life will sometimes get the best of us. It did for me and I paid for it in with less productivity and bad health. I was always used to being in soccer shape, so being over 200 pounds was new and actually quite depressing.
If you’re anything like me, you can relate to a few of the key points made above. You understand that having a why, setting a vision of who you want to become, and leaving emotions outside of your work are key to having success. Having healthy relationships with others and also with yourself are also critical to meeting your goals. More importantly, having a healthy relationship with yourself (loving yourself) is a key component to meeting your goals and New Year’s resolutions.
Try This Instead
Setting New Year’s Resolution is something that we all do, but instead of setting resolutions we need to set goals that can be achieved through small but productive actions. Unfortunately, many of us tend to fail at our goals by the first month. One of the reasons I believe this happens is due to the fact that we all have the same basic goals.
Mary wants to lose weight, Todd wants to meet a girlfriend, and Bob wants to increase his ROI’s for his next quarterly portfolio. While this is all good, there’s really no reason other than a vanity feeling that’s being chased. Instead of pursuing the person you’re to become, you pursue a “thing” or a “goal.” This is mental suicide. You’ve got to make a mental shift and really make a lifestyle change.
In order to make this lifestyle change, you must start small. One little change or “ripple in the pond” as I like to say, can create lasting change.
Charles Duhigg, Author of the best selling book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do In Life and Business, talks a lot about the choices we human’s make and how they affect us. More importantly, he shares some interesting case studies and insights on how we actually make decisions at certain times of the day or during certain times in our lives. (Cough Cough, New Year’s.) I highly recommend picking that book up if you haven’t done so.
The following steps have helped me become more productive (in the later months of 2013), healthier, and have actually helped me to increase my income.
The last thing you want to do with your New Year’s resolution is to set a weight loss goal, spiritual goal, traveling goal, or financial goal that you’re completely overwhelmed with. Instead, understand that it’s best to start small.
Start Small. I started with a small goal of drinking a glass of water every morning I woke up. Eventually this one small habit translated into other areas of my life. I was soon making healthier eating choices, exercising more, and making more money online because I started focusing on income producing activities. Crazy to think that all of this change started with the one small habit of having a glass of water as soon as I woke up.
Focus On Yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, then why should anyone else believe in you. After I’d had my water and ate a good breakfast, I’d immediately take a shower and take care of me. I’d make sure to floss and brush my teeth, shave if necessary, and dressed well as often as I could even if I wasn’t going anywhere! The main point of this was to make myself feel like I was valuable and that I cared about myself – because I do! And you should to!
Read. It’s no coincidence that all successful people have big libraries. I don’t have the biggest library but I’ve got about 25+ books on personal development, investing, and online business. It doesn’t matter if you read your book one day and then read a business article online the next day. The point is to read and acquire the habit for fueling your brain with information that is going to help push your towards your goals. One of my favorite books that I’ve become obsessed with is Arnold Schwarzenegger’s, Total Recall: My Unbelievably True Life Story. Truly an inspirational book, highly recommend checking that out.
Positive Messages. Instead of engaging on the negative events in the world, gossiping with your friends, or talking about some outrageous twerking thing that Miley Cyrus is doing – engage in good conversations with good company. Listen to personal development audio that’s going to encourage your life. The more a message is embedded into your mind, the more your subconscious is going to believe it.
Understand Yourself. You are not in control of your life entirely, but you do have a good chunk of control over what messages and circumstances are coming into your life. You have a choice of what channel to turn your tv to, what radio station you’re listening to, what music you’re listening to, books you’re reading, and people you’re surrounding yourself with. Stop blaming the world for your own circumstances and face the reality that we’re all self-made. You control your destiny. If you don’t like something, you’re fully capable of changing it.
Small Milestones. Breaking down your goals into smaller increments is the best way I know to achieve big goals. For example, one of the projects I’ve been working on requires that I rank a lot of my content in Google and then convert that traffic into leads and then sales. If I look at the bigger picture, it seems almost impossible. So instead of dwelling at the larger picture, I set small milestones of creating one piece of content per day. Up until this point I have 12 articles done and have completed the web design on the entire project. Since measuring my progress, I’m about a quarter of the way done.
For example, if you wanted to lose say 60 pounds within the year, you would break that down by the months in the year. 60 pounds divided by 12 months equals 5 pounds per month. 4 weeks divided by 5 pounds equals 1.25 pounds per week. So if you wanted to lose 60 pounds by the end of the year, you’d have to lose 1.25 pounds per week. All of a sudden 60 pounds doesn’t sound so tough does it?
For reaching your financial goals, let’s say you wanted to make $100,000 per year. That’s typically a number that most people want to shoot for. You would simply divide $100,000 by 12 months in the year, which now breaks down that income to roughly $8,333 per month. After dividing that by 4 weeks in a month, we would need to earn $2,083 per week. If we took that a step further and broke that down by 7 days in a week, we would need to earn $297.61 per day to earn $100,000 per year. Once again, that sounds a lot easier than just going for $100,000 doesn’t it?
So train yourself to reach these small milestones. And if you don’t meet them, don’t get discouraged! Just know that you have to keep working at it. While some may get it their first time around, others will need to work smarter or work a little harder. Some will need that extra piece of information that could transform their circumstances. Always remember to start small.
What’s your Why? You’ve got to have a why. Why are you doing what you’re doing? Always remember to attach your goal to the person you want to become, not the object you wish to acquire. Jim Rohn once said that people who win the lottery will never keep their millions until they become a millionaire. I’m pretty sure he meant that unless you become a millionaire psychologically, you’ll lose all of the money physically. So whatever goal you wish to achieve, always keep your why in mind and understand that the person you become in the process of achievement will be followed by the desires you initially wanted. Become the greatest version of yourself and live in the now, it’s all you’ve got.
If you’ve read this far, then you’ve probably gotten some value out of this and I want to thank you for reading this far. Remember to start small, set your goals, break that goal down into small milestones, and more importantly remember your why.